It goes without saying that I am a conversationalist Now before I go any further let me define that word for you. A Conversationalist is someone that enjoys or excels in conversation. Now let's visit the "root word" which is conversation. A conversation is informal interchange of thoughts, information, etc., by spokenwords; oral communication between persons; talk; colloquy; the ability to speak well with others.
With that being said I engage in a lot of conversations with various persons from various walks of life on a daily basis. Recently, I've noticed a pattern in many of these conversations. People everywhere are trying to dictate to people everywhere on how, when, where, and why to spend their money. Now, if for some reason you find yourself at the financial mercy of someone else then your situation is a bit unique. As long as you are not financially independent the person that has control of your "pocket" also has some say so in what you do financially.
Now, that is not who I am about to blog about. I'm blogging about individuals that for whatever reasons have decided they are self-proclaimed financial advisers to the masses. I'm speaking of those that are constantly saying what a person can do or can't do with their earned income. Most recently, I've made the decision to make more financially responsible decisions. This includes omitting many things that are not necessities. In order to receive increase from God I must be a good steward over what he has already given me. Now, WHY I choose to close my purse is really not your concern. I only shared that to make a point. The point is Monday-Friday I wake up, get dressed, go to MY job, and do MY work. At the end of the pay period a direct deposit in the name of "D'Andra E. Bradford" is posted to MY account.
So here is the irony. At no point did I list that anyone else went to my job and completed my responsibilities. At no point did I suggest that anyone else made a direct deposit into the accounts of D'Andra E. Bradford. However, I do hear people say what I could have or should have done with MY earned income. (Do you see where this is going?) Let's keep in mind that many of these people make references about others, I simply choose to "pick on myself". Or as my little nephew would say "I'm picking on my ownself today".
Often times we immediately say what people should be able to do that is not even necessary. Now yes I do believe people need to take care of their responsibilities so this isn't what I'm speaking of.
This past weekend I heard MANY people say "We need to support the Bayou Classic". But let me ask you this, where was your support all of the subsequent weeks and months in between. Southern University and Grambling State University need our (notice I said OUR) financial support on the days preceding and following "Bayou Classic Weekend". Let's be real the money we collect at this Major sporting event will not keep the school floating. Yes, we need to support The Annual Bayou Classic. But people were all up in arms about something that is a LUXURY. I'm just being real. Bayou Classic is a luxury and I can't speak for anyone else, but when I choose between keeping a roof over my head and watching my favorite teams hash it out on the football field. I'm choosing stability and security of a home.
Now I don't know why anyone else made the choices they made but what I do know is whatever their reasons, I don't work at THEIR jobs and I don't pay THEIR bills and my name is not on THEIR financial accounts. Therefore it is not MY JOB to spend their money for them.
People are entitled to make their own decisions. So when a person decides to forfeit the salon for dinner that's their business. When a person chooses a Chevy over a Mercedes, again their business. When a person chooses to rent instead of buy or buy instead of rent. . . their business.
If we would all just stop trying to spend other folks money we may find more peace with our own personal decisions. Now this is a post for another blog, but this even includes when you ask someone to borrow money and they say NO. They have that right. . . This entitlement attitude of today's society is going to be the death of many of our neighbors and friends. (Blogging about this later)
So maybe you are still reading and you are still confused about the point. The point is "Stop spending (insert name here) money for them". And most definitely Stop trying to spend my money for me.
So next time you part your lips (or lift your fingers) to tell someone what they NEED to do with their Earned Income, check the "PAY TO THE ORDER OF " on their pay stub.
That's all folks. . .have a great day!
That's all folks. . .have a great day!
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